Porn, Men, and the New Testament

Article HERE:

Excessive pornography viewing is likely to contribute to a risk of sexual dysfunction in men, but not women, according to new research.

The researchers…report that while pornography trivially affects women’s sex lives, an excessive habit can be ruinous to men’s psychosexual health. Essentially, many men who are really into internet porn have the potential to become disinterested in sex with a real-life partner. The researchers suggest that the more time men spend on sites such as PornHub, the less able they’ll be to connect with a partner in the bedroom. This can result in severe damage to sexual and romantic relationships and make intimacy challenging, at best.

Now there might be many reasons for this, and the direction in which the correlation goes is uncertain, but one thing to note is that some of men’s use of pornography has to do with the fact that the wives that are supposed to give those men sex are not doing so in any way that is consistent or regular (maybe she is “tired”, or does not “feel” like it, or whatever). Is it any wonder then that a man, instead of ruining his marriage and the lives of his children, might  turn to porn to alleviate the sexual frustration that he feels. And then is it any wonder that the use of this porn becomes even easier; after all, rather than fight with the wife and plead for sex (essentially, debasing himself), the man can just access porn. And this problem is only made worse by wife’s who let themselves go physically. Now I am not saying that this is a good thing, but it is understandable. Furthermore — and this is the main point — it makes me appreciate how smart and red-pilled the New Testament writers were. After all, consider the Apostle Paul:

Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (1 Corinthians 7:1-5, ESV)

How smart is this! In essence, the Apostle Paul is saying that when a husband wants sex, he should get it in almost all cases; and the same when a wife wants sex from her husband. And if this rule were actually followed, how much pornography, sexual frustration, etc. could be avoided by married couples. The fact is, most men are easily satisfied and all they ask in a woman is that she stay relatively healthy and fit, look decent, be able to cook, clean and look after children, and provide sex regularly. Do all those things consistently, and nearly all men will be happy. It’s that simple. And if you want a husband to avoid porn, then make sure that you are a willing sexual outlet for him, not a place where he has to beg for one lay a month.

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One thought on “Porn, Men, and the New Testament

  1. Okay!!!!! Finally somebody gets it. In the words of John Eldridge Wild at Heart, porn is the fair haired maiden who always says yes, but the Song of Solomon is in the Bible for two reasons. One, to convey the intimacy of Christ and his bride and two, to convey that same intimacy with man and wife. Beware of fast food, it’s a deception of what is supposed to be real. I know, a Big Mac sure tastes good though.

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